One of my most remarkable and somewhat surprising encounters with the world of sex toys happened on a beautiful summer morning in Washington state in the US. I was at my friend Bart’s house, we had already thrown some beers into the back of his pickup truck, and were getting ready to head out to the lake to watch the Blue Angels air show. Bart suddenly said “Dude, do you want to meet my girls Lolita and Letitia, who live with me? I tell you man, they are both 5 ft. tall and sexy as hell.” I was taken aback to say the least. Bart, as far as I knew, lived alone while his girlfriend Cindy lived across the state border. So what was he talking about? I nodded tentatively and Bart disappeared into the basement. When he came back, lo and behold, there were his 5 ft twins — Lolita, an exquisitely-crafted blown glass bong and Letitia, a stunningly pretty brunette of voluptuous proportions. That morning we were rather delayed for our trip to the lake because Bart and I partook of the pleasures of Lolita with some incredible native Alaskan Northern Lights weed. While Letitia was definitely reserved for Bart’s pleasures, I got to experience first-hand her supple silicone body, her pouty lips and sensuous mouth; how her black, lacy lingerie dropped to the floor with one flick of the finger, exposing her magnificent breasts, realistic vulva and anus.. and the mannequin’s extreme pose-ability for impossible sex positions.
Later that day, as we chilled out with our beers, Bart told me about his quasi-emotional attachment to Letitia and how his partner Cindy accepted this as an addition to their happy sex life, rather than holding Bart as a sexual deviant. I did not consider myself a prude even then, but, born and brought up in India, I remember having felt somewhat guilty for being aroused by a sex doll. It took me a fair bit of reflection and looking inwards to understand the source of my guilt and eventually overcome it. I realized that both as an Indian and as a man, forget about using sex-toys to enhance experience, I was actually influenced by a misguided notion that a good thing should be left alone, shoving human sexuality and its pleasures squarely under the carpet. Somewhere I thought that somehow a more vivid and intense orgasm, unassisted by human body parts, was somehow a negative indicator of my sexual prowess. How could I admit that an inanimate object is able to take an already delightful experience to newer heights, thereby lessening my stature as an advanced sex-god who is bringing pleasure to others?Well, I was lucky. Once those hollow thoughts stopped reverberating in the caverns of my mind, I could finally see some light and admit to myself that adult sex toys only demonstrate that there will always be room for improvement and through their creative use, my partner and I can reach experiences that we will not be able to reach otherwise, no matter how advanced our Tantric practices might be. Once I realized this, my world opened up irrevocably to the myriad possibilities of manly dildos and bionic bullets, and beautiful pleasures from which I have never looked back. So, from my particular experience, here are some popular toys to try if you are just starting out in the world of kink and exploratory pleasures. - Let’s start with an innocuous one: lubricants. They’re not only for penises, but essential for same or cross-gender play. My advice: don’t just go ahead and buy fancy ones. Simple surgical lubes from standard medical stores might be quite enough. I also say this because some lubes are incompatible (especially oil-based ones) with rubber toys and condoms, so if skin-on-skin play is your thing, stick with water-based, or if you go the ‘less is more’ route, go for silicone-based formulas. They are pricey but well worth it (as they repel water, they are also great for the occasional shower-shag). The rule of thumb is, “there is no such thing as too much lube”, so don’t hold back, use generously!
- Another popular toy is the cock ring. It’s a ring-shaped sex toy that goes around the penis and helps erections last longer. If you decide to spend some money on it, do buy a vibrating one because they are great fun to play with. Also check for size (I'm not pornstar sized and unless you are, some of them will flatter-to-deceive) and buy a rechargeable one. Before shelling out cash on your joytoy, estimate if the bulbous head is going to actually touch your partner's privates or not. Also, I don’t want to scare you, but you should know that cock rings can be quite dangerous in case of a persistent erection. A doctor friend recently told me of a patient with that very unusual syndrome and his cock ring had to be cut through in a very delicate operation. So, if you have that particular issue, be careful.
- Prostate massager: If stimulating the P-spot does it for you, a good prostate massager might be just the thing. And why not? Word is that P-spot orgasms can be approximately 33% stronger than penile orgasms. So go and explore. But a word of caution — the technique calls for some knack and experience, otherwise it can be awkward and distracting. So, my advice is to trawl the blogs and YouTube before forking out moolah for the forqan.
- Fleshlights are revolutionary, especially if you believe, “practice makes perfect” in the bedroom as elsewhere. If you are single, consider buying a shower mount with a suction base to increase your dominion. (More pleasure to you!) The blurbs say, it increases stamina and improves performance, but well, check that out for yourself. And who’s complaining if you find net practice to be as pleasurable as a real match?
- Blowjob simulator: Although they are similar to pocket pussies or fleshlights in construction, these miraculous devices simulate oral sex. They’re especially handy in case your loved one finds tickling their tonsils a bit gag-reflex-inducing or simply isn’t into fellation. If you have extra cash lying in the drawer, spend it on the one that says “based on 6,000 hours of blowjob research and controlled by advanced AI algo” and if that’s not cutting edge enough for you, pair the experience with some VR porn. Just kidding, who do you think you are, C3PO?
Speaking of technology assist, one can take things to a different level these days with remote-controlled prostate massagers, IoT-based vibrators that can be precisely controlled over a Zoom call, AI-assisted auto-blowjobs that promise to make every blowjob a different experience, or simply apps that are not technically sex toys, but provide great work out for pelvic floor muscles to ultimately have better sex. My list is in no way comprehensive and I didn't cover a lot of fairly standard stuff, like penis pumps, urethral sounders, vibrators, dildos for men, ball separators, cock and ball assemblies, bionic bullets etc. If you ask me, keep things simple. Other than a few favorite contraptions, I prefer to keep my privates away from things that have on-off switches. Honestly, that doesn’t take much away, especially if you are willing to use your imagination to aid your kink. I’ll give you an example — if you really are into sensation-play, Google ‘figging’. It is practically free and can be whacky erotic fun with the right partner. After all, you can’t really beat the Victorians in kinkiness, can you? But my list is only a portal to a universe of play and pleasure in which you can chart your own journey. There’s a lot to discover, my dear explorer, so keep your mind (or any other orifice) open, and your rudder (you know what I mean) pointed in the right direction.Just one word of advice. As Letitia taught me, don’t take emotional attachment to sex toys lightly. You might just surprise yourself someday by writing a passionate love poem aimed at a six-inch alien object or if that’s how it goes, get into a marriage-divorce-marriage loop with a silicone brunette (and I am not talking about mere augmentations). If you don’t believe me, check out this story. Love is a many splendoured thing!Have fun guys!KAUSHIK’S FAVOURITE FIVE SEX TOYS
| Name | Description | Buy Link |
| Lubricants | A fluid used during sexual acts to reduce friction and ease penetration. It can be used for vagina, penis, or on sex toys. Lubes are water-based, gel-based, or silicone-based. | IMBesharam , Amazon , Durex(Rs. 200 – Rs. 500) |
| Cock Ring | Also known as a penis ring, constriction band, or tension ring. It’s ring-shaped and goes around the penis and/or scrotum, slowing blood flow and can help erections stay hard for longer. | IMBesharam, Snapdeal(Rs. 1,500 – Rs. 4,000) |
| Prostate massagers | Also called prostate vibrators, it is a sex toy for people with a penis to massage or stimulate the prostate. The massager comes in different sizes and multiple speeds and pulses to achieve better orgasms. | IMBesharam, Snapdeal(Rs. 5,000 – Rs. 15,000) |
| Fleshlight masturbators | An artificial vagina that can be used by inserting the penis into its opening. The erect penis goes into one end and you stroke the penis inside of the sleeve. Should be used with water-based lubricant. | IMBesharam, Snapdeal(Rs. 3,000 – Rs. 4,000) |
| Blowjob simulator | An alternative to the fleshlight, the sex toy simulates oral sex for people with penises | IMBesharam, Snapdeal(Rs. 3,000 – Rs. 30,000) |
Wildly sexy Kaushik encourages men to plunge into the vast possibilities of assisted climaxes while protecting his precious six packs under a layer of deceptive belly fat!
