As teenagers growing up in a fairly sex-segregated world, and struggling to deal with our budding sexualities, I remember going to the movies with friends, and then afterwards hanging out looking at girls passing by. We would comment amongst ourselves – what we liked or didn’t like about each of the girls - seeking affirmation from each other about our tastes and desires.One day, one boy in our group called out to a girl who didn’t meet with his approval and shouted “I want to cover the face and ram the base!” Fortunately for her, she was already out of earshot – but the rest of us were shocked. There was such a raw hatred packed in that idea – of simultaneously violating someone and obliterating her identity - that it struck me like a punch in the gut. I have never forgotten that moment, and now I understand that it was perhaps my first encounter with that place in our 14-year-old brains that lies at the very root of rape culture.As a visual artist, I’m interested in the difference between the pornographic and the erotic.While it would be safe to assume that erotic art has existed and been enjoyed in most cultures from time immemorial, pornography is generally spoken of in context of our modern industrial-capitalist culture.
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