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Queer-Ratri: How Dandiya Queen Falguni Pathak Liberated Me
Here's some reasons why we just love Falguni - it's not just her music, it's her effortless queer ishtyle too!
Sep 26, 2022
Why do I need to cover up when your friend comes home?
It took me a while to realise that I had been abused, and some probing to understand why I never told my parents about it
Feb 26, 2024
How To Get Naked In Front Of Another Person And Be Cool With It
Taking your clothes off in front of someone can be scary, exciting, uncertain, sexy and even funny. Read below to find out what some Agents felt when they got naked for the first time!
Apr 05, 2023
I wanted love and found it. It just wasn’t reciprocated
After each encounter, I promised myself I’d talk about my needs, be vulnerable in a smart way. Next time, I’d win
Jan 29, 2024
‘Every month I’d be lying in the principal’s room, waiting to die’
Pavitra was told that experiencing period pain was to be expected, even when the pain she was experiencing was debilitating. Why did it take so long for someone to take her pain seriously, she wonders.
Nov 20, 2023
‘Could I share food with others? Could I have a relationship?’
A diagnosis of herpes can be terrifying. But, here’s what I learnt after being told I have herpes
Nov 13, 2023
A French Fling And My Epic Romance With Masturbation
How old were you when you had your first “libido lightbulb” aka when you first got curious about sex and your body?
Jan 13, 2023
Healing, Not The Law, Gave Me My Justice - This is My Survivor Story
M tells us a complex story about violence, justice and ideal victims!
Jun 28, 2022
Breaking My Heart And Finding Myself
Imran on why queer break-ups are hard, but you can't lose yourself entirely in love.
Apr 01, 2022
Love Paranoia
After every rejection I ask, is it my disability?
Apr 01, 2022
QUESTIONS. RUMINATION. CONVERSATION Or What is he doing right now?
Apr 01, 2022
The Woman In The Closet
"I never considered my ajji was not always my ajji"
Jun 28, 2022
My Wobbly Bits: Making Friends with My New-Old Body
In my 50's, I'm rearing a kid by myself and greeting new body parts ever so frequently.
Mar 01, 2022
The Case Of The Missing Butterflies In My Tummy
I thought if I gave myself a push, I’d fall into the hormone pool everyone was swimming in.
Feb 01, 2022
See-Saw Sexual Confidence Ka!
What people said brought their sexual confidence up or down!
Jan 07, 2022
Bodies in Pain: Reclaim, not Shame
Angel's journey of accepting that her period pain was real, not imaginary or inconsequential.
Apr 30, 2022
Can Your Vulnerability Make You Mean? Mine Did.
What memories can a unexpected apology from a childhood bully bring up?
Jul 22, 2021
A Live-In In Lockdown
What does lockdown mean for a couple living-in in a big city?
Nov 24, 2020
“If He Does 'This', Girl You Need To Let Go Of Him!”
How the Discussion on 'Toxic' stuff can become toxic to live with
Nov 06, 2020
How Masturbation Helped Me Cope With Heartbreak
Masturbation and other remedies for rejection.
Oct 29, 2020
TWO OR THREE THINGS I LEARNED FROM BEING ALONE
How living alone during a pandemic changes how we think of our wellness.
Oct 17, 2020
My Body In Bed Isn’t Any Kind of Map To Pleasure
What is intimacy like when it’s traumatic to live in your body/head?
Oct 12, 2020
My Struggle To Live and Love With Vaginismus
How does trauma manifest in our bodies and our intimacies
Oct 04, 2020
Sex Sure Doesn't Need #PeriodLeaves
What's so special about the flow period sex can take?
Sep 18, 2020
Being A Sub Made Me Bloom And Widened My Perspective
What sharing intimacy with strangers online may reveal about your kinky self.
Sep 09, 2020
Dear Girls Who Sent Nudes, Thank You
What leaking of nude pictures says about betrayal of consent and privacy.
Sep 03, 2020
Romantic Sensual Asexual - That’s Me
Can one be asexual and terribly romantic too?
Aug 24, 2020
The Adorable Boys Who Love ‘Papa Bear’
Who decided that desire is only for the young?
Aug 21, 2020
I Ghosted Him. Then I Got A Second Chance.
Caught between shame and surprise, will a ghost-er make a different choice?
Aug 10, 2020
To All the Boys I Couldn't Love Before
What fleeting connections with many interesting men tell you about having the hots for none of them.
Aug 04, 2020
Memories of Touch- Poem In A Pandemic
In the protected rooms where people are intubated there are no last hugs and the only thing to touch may be the glass of the window through which you can look at them
Jul 27, 2020
I Took A Nude Selfie. It Changed My Life.
After years of hiding, can a nude selfie get Ini to see her body in a new light?
Jul 13, 2020
Can I Open The Window And Let Go Of The Past?
A journey back to a room full of a traumatic memory to seek reconciliation.
Jul 07, 2020
Tell Me Tarot, Will He Ever Come Back?
After Manjari is ghosted, all search for closure leads to herself.
Jul 02, 2020
June Rewind - #WhenWomenLoveWomen, All In One Place
Stories, histories and resources for queer women - ek dhamakedar package!
Jun 30, 2020
You've Got Mail! Letters Between An Older and A Younger Lesbian - Plain Text Version
Jun 24, 2020
Secret Loves And Broken Hearts: A Comic
A comic about queer desire, love, and loss.
Jun 26, 2020
Satrangi Ladki, Atrangi Khiladi: A Comic About Shiela
The many romances and realities of this dashing woman!
Jun 28, 2020
What Did Your Father Do?
In a Father’s Day special, Swati recalls the most special moments spent with her "un-special" Baba.
Jun 21, 2020
Call Me Rama: Reading Baba
A woman re-discovers the man her father was through his writings.
Jun 21, 2020
You’ve Got Mail! Letters Between An Older and A Younger Lesbian
How much has changed for women who love women in urban India?
Jun 24, 2020
Shiela Ki Jawaani Ki Anokhi Kahaani
An excerpt from Maya Sharma's Loving Women: Being Lesbian in Unprivileged India
Jun 13, 2020
"So Many Women, But It's Her I Love"
An excerpt from Maya Sharma's Loving Women: Being Lesbian in Unprivileged India
Jun 07, 2020
Lockdown Diaries: There's A Naked Woman In My Mirror! F*** It's ME!
When there is nobody to call us beautiful, what might we discover while binge-watching ourselves?
May 29, 2020
I Kissed A Girl And I Liked It - 7 Queer Women Tell Us About Their First Kiss With A Girl
Stories of people's first taste of pleasure and tenderness
Jun 01, 2020
What Falling For My Friend As A Lesbian Taught Me About How We Express Friendship
Does queerness complicate the experience of falling for a friend?
Jun 15, 2020
S.W.A.G. Secretly We Are Gay
Two closeted gay men, who are married to women, fall in love with each other.
Mar 01, 2020
The (Secret) Porn That Turns Me On
Must our fantasies mirror our real-life sexual preferences?
Jan 27, 2020
As A Man Am I Condemned To Choose Violence Over Love? Maybe Not.
I hit her. The realisation of what I did, and the guilt it brought is unbearable even now.
Oct 15, 2019
What Emraan Hashmi Couldn’t Teach Me About Dhichak Dhichak
I thought sex meant lying next to someone under a blanket and smooching. I was so, so wrong
Aug 19, 2019
Maybe Fighting with a Friend isn't Such a Bad Thing
Why do we find it so easy to let friendship fade away?
Jun 20, 2019
More Than An Identity: How I Realised My Struggle Was With Being Sexual, Not Homosexual
My identity as a queer person became a bit of a shield from the world of love, the world of sex
Jun 11, 2019
A Mudblood Child of a Love Marriage
From my parents’ inter-caste marriage, I learned that love was worth hardship
Nov 24, 2019
Amma, I Wonder If You Had Orgasms
I have always wanted to ask you this. Can you tell me about your orgasms?
May 12, 2019
Main Apni Sabse Favourite Hoon: Chronicles of an Instaspam Queen
What is it about being a woman on Instagram that is so joyous, so satisfying – and so annoying to men?
Apr 25, 2019
I Faked Orgasms to be Polite
You know how we’re taught that good kids don't go for second helpings of food? I carried that training into my sex life
Mar 05, 2019
How My Relationships Made Me Question Pyaar, Azaadi aur Accountability
Is ‘demanding accountability’ just a euphemism for trying to control someone?
Feb 26, 2019
How I Grew Out of My Turbulent Teens
Life as a schoolgirl was about trying to fit in; to be seen and not seen; self-hate and self-harm. Talking about it to other people was the first step in a new direction
Jan 17, 2019
When a Workshop about Love and Desire Turned into a Raucous Party
Oct 26, 2018
What I Learned from Reading Erotica at Twelve
Is erotica a good intro into the world of sex?
Oct 09, 2018
My First Time Taught Me How Not to Have Sex
Jan 24, 2019
You Should Wear Maroon For Your Skin" and Other Advice I've Ignored as a Non-Fair Woman
Why hide under drab colours? Bold lip art – bright colours, filigree designs, polka dots – are my jam
Aug 24, 2018
I Thought Dye-ing Young Would Make Me More Desirable. Twenty-Three Years Later, I’m Ready to Stop
Trying to hide white hair now seems like an avoidable agony
Aug 21, 2018
Isn't A Whatsapp Love Story A Real Love Story?
Could you fall crazily in love with someone you've never met IRL?
Jun 12, 2018
Sex Actually: Memories of Mid-Afternoon Sex, and Losing Friends
Oct 11, 2018
From Saat Khoon Maaf to Khoon-Kharaba : Ways People React To Cheating!
Stories from people who discovered their lovers’ infidelity, what happened next and what they think about it now.
Feb 03, 2020
Sex Actually: Ecstasy, Anxiety and the Fear of Being Judged
Sex, as it actually is.
May 08, 2018
Different Personas In Bed
Perhaps we adopt sexual personas to make ourselves feel more confident, or to make our lovers feel more confident. Some people adopt different personas as a temporary holiday from their real lives.
Sep 11, 2018
Sex Actually: Of Broken Vaginas and Negotiating Consent
New stories of women's unforgettable sexual encounters.
Apr 19, 2018
The Loneliness of the Long-Distance Girlfriend
There is only so much that can be romanticised about a long-distance relationship and the magical reunion that'll fix everything.
Apr 12, 2018
Thoughts You Can't Avoid When Your Long-Distance Relationship is Doomed
I suppose one of the perks of being in a long-distance relationship is that you can foster a few pimples which pixelate into the rest your skin on Skype.
Apr 24, 2018
I Stopped a Man From Harassing a Young Boy on a Bus, Because it's Happened to Me Too
Think about all the hotel rooms, offices, malls, streets, building blocks and so many other places all over the world where similar things might be happening at this very moment.
Apr 03, 2018
Sex Actually 2.0 :
Stories of women's sexual experiences and thoughts... continued.
Jan 31, 2018
Sex Actually: The Sexual Encounter Women Say They Can't Forget
Women make sense of their diverse sexual experiences.
Jan 26, 2018
Sex Actually (Let’s Talk About It)
Have you ever had a sexual encounter that you just couldn’t forget? That keeps coming back to you from time to time or all the time?
Jan 19, 2018
Dating an Older Woman Made Me Take Myself and Relationships More Seriously
It made me do a lot of prioritizing and reorganizing. It was stabilizing.
Jan 08, 2018
LOVE, SEX AND KHICHDI
I just wanted to hold him tight and never let go. I wanted to make sure he would come back and I wanted to scream at him for untangling the ‘not’s in my chest.
Dec 12, 2017
Meri “Baingan” Wali Story
My bainganwali story took place in Delhi, declared one of the unsafest cities in general, but for women in particular.
Dec 15, 2017
LONGING IS THE SPICE THAT MAKES A MEAL OF SEX FOR ME
Longing is a spice. Its essence pulls you close, teases the appetite at the slightest taste. What is love without longing?
Dec 04, 2017
WE MET ON GRINDR. NOW THE INTIMACY OF THE SEX WE HAD MAKES IT HARD FOR ME TO FORGET HIM
Some loves are sexual, where emotion, body and connection become powerfully joined in the intimacy of sex more than anything else. It is an intoxication, a nasha that’s hard to forget, because it runs deep.
Nov 08, 2017
A Thousand and One Stories of Coming Out
I learnt that people are always jockeying for power and invariably looking for that one thing to pick on you about. In my case, it is my sexual orientation
Sep 21, 2017
My Year of Flings
In retrospect, it seems to me that my ‘hooking-up’ was not so much about seeking temporary partners, it was more about establishing power. To make myself needed, yet always be out of reach.
Sep 12, 2017
How Gujrati Porn Made Me Realise I Was Asexual
The way I was not feeling anything while watching porn, I did not feel any kind of attraction and sexual desire for anyone either.
Sep 14, 2017
I was the Abusive One In My Relationship. My Break-up Taught Me To Change.
I’ve realised that there is no purpose to just feeling perpetually guilty. What I can do now is never treat anyone else the way I treated her.
Oct 12, 2017
My First Break-Up Was Nothing Like The Movies
We just sat down, wringing our hands. I said, “We have to confront reality. I don’t think we should be together anymore.”
Oct 13, 2017
Dosti is Pyaar: Being Lost and Finding Friends
If pyaar is dosti, it took me a while to understand that that dosti is also pyaar, but more forgiving.
Aug 04, 2017
How I Helped My Mother Watch Porn and Other Stories
Can a young woman learn to accept her mother too is a sexual being?
Aug 28, 2017
I LEARNT HOW TO EXPRESS AFFECTION AND LOVE IN FRIENDSHIP THE HARD WAY
Sometimes I think that friendship and hugging are oddly co-related. Both exist in a place of love which is somewhere between sexual love and cordial acquaintance.
Aug 06, 2017
Diary of An Indian Sex Educator
It was a co-ed school. But the boys were not going to learn about the body.
Jul 31, 2017
Why I'll Never Stop Masturbating
I accidentally discovered orgasms at 14, and began a thrilling solo trip
Sep 19, 2017
Dil Google Google ho gaya AKA how I internet stalked my way through a break up
I’d scroll down from post to post, to find semblance of a love lost. As though trying to relive our time together by scrolling down will undo everything that happened to us.
Oct 11, 2017
I Felt Humiliated for Contracting an STI But I Know I'm Touchable, Lovable and More-Than-Sexable
Getting an STI is surrounded by shame and shaming, even at times, by doctors.
Aug 03, 2017
For 25 Years I've Stayed Faithful To A Husband Who Refused Me Sex
Do I need sex? Well not really but I’d definitely like some.
Jul 17, 2017
WHAT 'NO STRINGS ATTACHED' TAUGHT ME ABOUT LOVE AND SEX
A young woman asks some 'un-cool' questions about NSA relationships
Jul 25, 2017
Savita Bhabhi and I: A True Love Story
Here is something you should know about me. I wrote three stories for Savita Bhabhi.
Mar 04, 2017
To All The (Straight) Men I've Loved Before
Let loose, this rise of the body and soul caused me to constantly fall in love with many a lissom lad
Feb 21, 2017
My Konark Summer
Feb 17, 2017
Fantasy Mein Kya Sharmana: My Secret Crushes
Mar 16, 2017
UNFUCKABLE ME (OR, “YOU’RE NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS”)
Feb 13, 2017
IT'S COMPLICATED! (BUT) A FULLY FABULOUS FEBRUARY ON AOI
Feb 08, 2017
"I've slowly learnt to keep the lights on." Body, Images and Sex: A Storified Conversation
Body, Images and Sex: A Storified Conversation with Kripa Joshi, Rani Dhaschainey and Ratna Devi Manokaran
Dec 19, 2016
Every Navratri Falguni Made Me Feel That Queer Is Ekdum Cool
A song of ishq for Falguni Pathak!
Oct 05, 2016
NOT A HAIR IN PLACE: SEX, WAXING AND THE BODY IN MY MIND
Body hair and sex - that complicated relationship!
Sep 06, 2016
ISHQ VISHQ SEX VEX
EXPLORING TOUCH TO EXPLOSIVE TOUCH Let Manu take you on his journey of touch from naive bodily explorations with his male friends to the electric, experiences with the opposite sex, and along the way understandings about consent, mutuality and the simple pleasures of pleasure!
Sep 02, 2016
I DIDN’T BELIEVE IN LOVE – THEN I FOUND POLYAMORY
Well. Polyamory done right, as it turns out, is a lot of work!
Aug 31, 2016
In A Gay Bar You Can See Forever
An Indian man at 31, in a gay bar for the first time, experiencing male erotic tenderness for the first time.
Aug 01, 2016
THIS IS WHO I AM: A YOUNG MAN’S JOURNEY OF FINDING HIMSELF THROUGH KINK
A young man who discovers his submissive nature and learns to be himself through BDSM and kink.
May 01, 2016
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