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How To Tell If Your Partner Is Having Fun
Verbal and non verbal cues are great, but nothing beats honest communication
Dec 18, 2024
'I feel HIV much easier to live with than even diabetes or high blood pressure'
Adopted kids, gave birth, joined a corporate workspace, became an athlete… Persons living with HIV share that testing positive wasn’t the end of the world
Dec 01, 2024
From dairy to salad vegetables: Desi terms for orgasms
Did you see them cumming?
Nov 19, 2024
A History of The Internet’s Most Famous Friendship Meme
How ek doston ka gang fought, forgave and redefined internet culture forever
Nov 08, 2024
My Asexual Fantasy
We asked – What does intimacy mean to you? What’s a fantasy you’ve always had? What’s something you’d like to do with a date or partner? 8 ace people responded with their imaginations of desire and pleasure.
Oct 30, 2024
Sexual Surrogacy: Bole Toh, A Practicals Wala Therapy That Can Help You Become Thoda Confident During Sex
You can't just line up. Your therapist will have to recommend one
Oct 27, 2024
Sporting events where you can wear your birthday suit
Shoes, socks and little else... Races and competitions from across the world where you can participate nangu pangu
Sep 30, 2024
A (Surprising) History of the Heart
The coyly pulsating emoji has many naughty secrets.
Sep 11, 2024
When Noor Jahan fed Lata with her own hands between Wagah and Attari
When the two legends couldn’t cross the border to meet each other, they reunited in no-man’s land and shared a picnic filled with love, remembrance and friendship
Aug 14, 2024
Inside the BOMgAY story with Riyad
How Riyad Wadia, of Wadia Movietone, captured the 1990s Bombay’s gay culture from an up-close-and-personal lens, skirting laws and moral police
Jun 28, 2024
Blood Donation Safety: Why Are Trans People and MSMs Not Allowed to Donate Blood in India?
Is blood donation in India inclusive, accessible and equitable?
Jun 14, 2024
Misogyny, terrorism, and incels- a history of the no-fap movement
Founded in 2011, the no-fap movement is now a full industry with influencers and rehab centres, lacking only in scientific data
May 31, 2024
Surprise Surprise: A Poem
How do you make a terrible day better? Thoda pleasure, thoda play, and a whole lot of sexiness…
May 28, 2024
AOI Masturbation Shayari 2024 Contest Winners
The Shayaris that made us go, ooh la la~
May 22, 2024
A Brief History of Phone Sex
How cross-connections of the telecommunication revolution, desire, loneliness and queerness led to a booming industry across 80s & 90s
May 17, 2024
Love Served With a Side of Mutton Sukka, Chicken Curry and Coconut Chutney
The impromptu meal Babasaheb Ambedkar cooked for friends and family
Apr 14, 2024
Big Truths About The Big-O: AOI’s Orgasm Anxiety Survey
Is sex only a straight line to orgasms? What’s mental health got to do with orgasms? Are orgasms guaranteed if you have a partner?
Aug 11, 2022
What's The Controversy Around Gender Testing In Sports?
What is the deal about it really? Why is it being challenged by athletes across the world? Read on to know
Aug 29, 2022
Support Choice Not Stigma - Multilingual Memes on International Safe Abortion Day
Desi stars Sallu, Sridevi, and even latest Dadasaheb Phalke award-winner Asha Parekhji are asking - why so much stigma around #SafeAbortions yaar?
Sep 28, 2022
I was called a tomboy
A girl with short hair and playing sports? Must be a tomboy. Some liked it. Some didn’t. Four people who grew up being called a tomboy share their journey with the word.
Mar 04, 2024
How Can You Look Out For Your Child's Mental Health?
Counselling Psycholgist Utkarsha Jagga suggests six tips on how you can care for your children's mental health while protecting their privacy.
Oct 10, 2022
Fantasy, Eroticism and Kink: An Interview with Jaya Sharma
Jaya Sharma from The Kinky Collective talks about BDSM, power play, pleasure and reality ka khel!
Nov 11, 2022
Is Good Touch/Bad Touch Really An Effective Way To Educate Kids About Consent?
Sex educator Srinidhi asks - what do we miss out about children’s consent and agency when we limit touch to ‘good’ and ‘bad’?
Nov 23, 2022
Why do I need to cover up when your friend comes home?
It took me a while to realise that I had been abused, and some probing to understand why I never told my parents about it
Feb 26, 2024
D se Disability, D se Desire
How do we expand the world to make room for all kinds of bodies and minds and loves and lives? Some awesome people with disabilities shared their stories with us. On the International Day of Persons with Disabilities, we are sharing them with you.
Dec 03, 2022
How To Get Naked In Front Of Another Person And Be Cool With It
Taking your clothes off in front of someone can be scary, exciting, uncertain, sexy and even funny. Read below to find out what some Agents felt when they got naked for the first time!
Apr 05, 2023
Is There A ‘Normal’ Period?
Let’s talk about periods beyond the hushed conversations.
Oct 04, 2018
Why Is There A Pleasure Premium On ‘Tight’ Vaginas?
A doctor asks: Can we please have conversations around (hetero)sexual pleasure that don’t focus on ‘editing’ women’s bodies for men’s sake?
Mar 15, 2023
Why Flirting Without Agenda Matters
Lessons from the Caribbean
Feb 24, 2023
I Thought It Was A Dream Date. But I Am Bipolar, So Was It Just A Dream?
This date wasn’t supposed to be a rebound, but still hit me in the face, and everywhere else
Dec 18, 2023
Why does talking about sex-ed make us so squeamish?
AOI unpacks the many issues at the heart of Bihar CM Nitish Kumar's statement about sex-education in the Bihar legslative assembly, and all the furore around it
Nov 09, 2023
7 of My Favourite Works of Art
by Abhishek Anicca
Oct 08, 2023
What Is The History Of The Heart Symbol?
Here are all the shapes in which our dils have dhak- dhakoed over the centuries
Sep 29, 2023
Did You Know Speed Dating Was Created By A Jewish Rabbi?
Let's find out more about this mutual swayamvar aka 90's ka tinder!
Aug 11, 2023
Fragrant as Fuck! Why Some Desi Fragrances Are So Good At Giving Us Lusty Thoughts
The secret ingredient (indole) is found in both Rajnigandha and poop!
Jun 20, 2023
Love Water! Kama Salila! Did You Know These Pracheen Bharatiya Names for Squirting?
Did you know squirting has been documented since 5th century?
May 25, 2023
Talking To My Daughter About Sex, And The Body, Changed Me As a Parent and a Person
I wanted to be the kind of parent who could respond honestly to my daughter's questions about sex.
May 14, 2023
My Period Turns Me On, In Ways You Can't Image (As Told To A Lover)
It smells like a deeply ferrous tang, seductive like flowers or the night air, but richer, funkier.
Apr 10, 2023
What Does Fictosexual Mean?
Falling in lou with fictional characters koi fiction nahin!
Mar 17, 2023
What is Sex-Tech? Can It Change Our Sex Lives for The Better?
Jan 04, 2023
The AOI Orgasm Anxiety Survey
What do people really feel about their sex lives? We asked. They told us.
Aug 03, 2022
Teachers Tell Us Why They Need Sex-Ed In Schools! AOI x The Gender Lab
35 teachers share their stories, needs and demands for Sex-Ed in schools!
Jul 14, 2022
Love Paranoia
After every rejection I ask, is it my disability?
Apr 01, 2022
How We Found Comprehensive Sex-Ed Goals in the AOI Blue Film Contest!
Condoms se Consent tak, everything a Blue Film Script can reveal!
Mar 16, 2022
Fantasy, Feminism, Erotics, Politics: An Interview with Jaya Sharma
Jaya Sharma tells us about BDSM, fantasy and reality ka khel!
Feb 19, 2022
Without Fantasy There is No Liberty! Bole Toh? An AOI Chhotu Essay
Can fantasy allow us to rethink reality?
Feb 05, 2022
Iss Fantasy Ko Main Kya Naam Du? A Chart of Spicy Fantasies
So are you into Daydreaming or Dendrophilia?
Feb 03, 2022
What Is Sexual Confidence Anyway? 20 People Tell Us
Beyond the stereotypes of wham, bam, thank you ma'am, what does it really mean?
Jan 15, 2022
SLUT METRO : The Many Journeys to Sexual Confidence!
Jan 18, 2022
The AOI Pleasure Alphabet
Not just one but three pleasures per letter!
Dec 21, 2021
Stories From A Survey: Chintu's Story
Nov 01, 2021
How Do Vulnerabilities Play Out in Sex?
Why do we make sexual choices that make us vulnerable? Can one #VulnerABILITY lead to another?
Jul 12, 2021
7 Kinds of Vulnerability We Glimpse in Films
From Deewar, to Frances Ha - what vulnerabilities do films bring out?
Jul 09, 2021
Why We Need Comprehensive Sexuality Education
Why CSE helps dismantle the sexual vulnerability time-bomb!
Jul 03, 2021
PROSTATE AND PATRIARCHY
Why does prostate pleasure scare conventional masculinity?
Dec 06, 2020
Why Does Guilt Follow Pleasure - An Investigative Documentary About Me
Moving from guilt to satisfaction in sex!
Nov 09, 2020
READING MINDS - 8 Indian Books About Experiencing Mental Illness
Books to help understand mental and emotional turmoil
Oct 22, 2020
My Journey From Trauma To Touch - A Poem
Can trauma soften when we confront it?
Oct 09, 2020
Teens Write #NotesToMyGenitals
If Teens could write letters to their private parts, what would they say?
Sep 25, 2020
Sex Sure Doesn't Need #PeriodLeaves
What's so special about the flow period sex can take?
Sep 18, 2020
Looking For Privacy In Laws
A list of laws which play a part in governing private lives
Sep 15, 2020
Being A Sub Made Me Bloom And Widened My Perspective
What sharing intimacy with strangers online may reveal about your kinky self.
Sep 09, 2020
My First Schoolgirl Crush
There’s a magical quality to falling in love for the first time – it's dreamlike; pixie dust in the air.
Aug 27, 2020
OBGYNji Is Here To Bust Common Myths About Abortion
Apr 21, 2022
I Saw My Child Masturbating! What Should I Do?
Tips to talk masturbation with kids stigma-free!
Dec 16, 2020
Memories of Touch- Poem In A Pandemic
In the protected rooms where people are intubated there are no last hugs and the only thing to touch may be the glass of the window through which you can look at them
Jul 27, 2020
Small Doubts: If My Partner Gives Me A Below Job, Am I Also Supposed To Give Him A Below Job In Return?
Apr 28, 2020
Love Stole My Heart, Caste Broke It
If caste were not a factor, I would have been married to my first boyfriend because there was no other issue.
Apr 17, 2020
I Have a Disability. Why Does Everyone Keep Saying That Love is Not For Me?
It took me way too long to realise that I, too, was allowed to love. That I, too, was worthy of it.
Mar 23, 2020
Stuff People Said They Miss In Porn!
What people wish porn also included.
Jan 31, 2020
Is ‘Good Touch’ and ‘Bad Touch’ an Unhelpful Shortcut to Teaching Kids about Consent?
Is focusing all our energy only on preventing abuse, instead of building autonomy, missing the woods for the trees?
Oct 08, 2019
The Shame Around My Friend's Abortion Scarred Us All - A Comic
A comic about Akhil's memory of a school friend who needed help.
Oct 05, 2019
What Emraan Hashmi Couldn’t Teach Me About Dhichak Dhichak
I thought sex meant lying next to someone under a blanket and smooching. I was so, so wrong
Aug 19, 2019
100 Things in My Body
What else do we have in this world apart from our bodies?
Jul 25, 2019
Small Doubts: How Do I Respond to Unsolicited Advice About My Weight?
Our #SexEtt column, this time about annoying nuskas.
Jul 23, 2019
Hair, There and Everywhere: The AOI Body Hair Survey
What we learned from 665 people's answers about body hair
Jul 09, 2019
Amma, I Wonder If You Had Orgasms
I have always wanted to ask you this. Can you tell me about your orgasms?
May 12, 2019
How Do Women's Bodies Change With Age?
We rarely talk about it, so we’re often clueless about what to expect.
Mar 20, 2019
They Get an Angina When They See a Vagina
My Facebook is a nation, That needs sex education
Mar 06, 2019
To be Truly Sex Positive, I Think We Need to Step Back From Sex
Between being strictly platonic and having sex is a sea of sensuality. Are we ready to see that yet?
Feb 27, 2019
When it Comes to Sex-Ed, What Do Young People Want to Talk About?
At a workshop for adolescents, we saw young people work through their fears and apprehensions to speak about their crushes.
Jan 29, 2019
Small Doubts
With some Ishqiaon-Dishqiaon answers.
Jan 24, 2019
Want to Talk to Your Kid about Sex and Wondering Where to Start? These Videos Will Help
Jan 18, 2019
Things Young Men Say to Me During Sex-Ed Workshops
From ‘What is a clitoris?’ to sharing stories of heartbreak, a sexuality educator tells us some of the burning issues on men’s minds
Jan 15, 2019
Wondering Why People are Protesting the Anti-Trafficking Bill? Here’s a Quick Guide
In past days you would have seen that people are protesting the Anti-Trafficking Bill alongside the Trans Rights Bill. The two Bills are flawed on their own. But they are also connected in some ways.
Dec 29, 2018
Not Sure Why People Are Protesting the Trans Bill? Here's A Quick Guide
Many amendments have been made to the Bill since it was drafted, but activists say it is still discriminatory, mainly for the following reasons.
Dec 26, 2018
We Asked: Has #MeToo Changed Anything for You? Here’s What You Told Us
Nov 29, 2018
Are You a Man? Has #MeToo Changed Anything for You?
If you identify as a man, this is for you.
Nov 01, 2018
What I Learned from Reading Erotica at Twelve
Is erotica a good intro into the world of sex?
Oct 09, 2018
Who can tell you how to please a woman better than a woman?
More women should be writing about sex
Sep 21, 2018
Have You Watched This Sweet Film About Anshuman Travelling on the Metro?
The film is a lovely portrait of it sparkling protagonist finding his way in the world
Sep 14, 2018
'Aap Karthe Mere Saath Sex?'
The day my research interview with a Hyderabad auto driver went off script to include sex, desire and consent
Aug 09, 2018
How to Love Yourself When You Are Asked Not To: A Conversation With Supriya Joshi
Highlights from the June AOI Conversation with Supriya Joshi
Jun 18, 2018
Why My Photo for My Lover Ruffled So Many Feathers
I had taken the photo years ago on my phone and sent it to my boyfriend, but it had stayed with me in my head.
Jun 11, 2018
Isn't A Whatsapp Love Story A Real Love Story?
Could you fall crazily in love with someone you've never met IRL?
Jun 12, 2018
Why Write About Love: A Conversation With Annie Zaidi
What goes into a love story? Why is it important to write about love? Can writing about love be an act of dissent?
May 31, 2018
Sex Actually: Memories of Mid-Afternoon Sex, and Losing Friends
Oct 11, 2018
Sex Actually: Ecstasy, Anxiety and the Fear of Being Judged
Sex, as it actually is.
May 08, 2018
Different Personas In Bed
Perhaps we adopt sexual personas to make ourselves feel more confident, or to make our lovers feel more confident. Some people adopt different personas as a temporary holiday from their real lives.
Sep 11, 2018
Sex Actually: Of Broken Vaginas and Negotiating Consent
New stories of women's unforgettable sexual encounters.
Apr 19, 2018
I Stopped a Man From Harassing a Young Boy on a Bus, Because it's Happened to Me Too
Think about all the hotel rooms, offices, malls, streets, building blocks and so many other places all over the world where similar things might be happening at this very moment.
Apr 03, 2018
What Is It Like To Have Sex and Love With Both Men and Women
Sex with men and with women is actually very different but it’s difficult to articulate the difference in sensation.
Mar 22, 2018
Is It Better To Have Loved and Lost Than Never To Have Loved At All?
While we sometimes have the pleasure and good luck of finding a “Truly, madly, deeply” wala love, we may not always find the “Forever and always” kind.
Feb 04, 2018
Sex Actually 2.0 :
Stories of women's sexual experiences and thoughts... continued.
Jan 31, 2018
Sex Actually: The Sexual Encounter Women Say They Can't Forget
Women make sense of their diverse sexual experiences.
Jan 26, 2018
People Call Me 'Pervert' Because I Like Sex
They can laugh and shame me all they want, but it's through sexual relationships that I learned how to build trust, seek consent, and stop judging
Jan 17, 2018
Curious Cat or Sleeping Dragon: What's your position on positions?
Is the definition of good sex many-positions wala sex?
Dec 22, 2017
Meri “Baingan” Wali Story
My bainganwali story took place in Delhi, declared one of the unsafest cities in general, but for women in particular.
Dec 15, 2017
Belly Laughter
Goddesses with bellies full of love and laughter!
Dec 06, 2017
#MardonWaliBaatein: A Twitter Conversation About Men and Sexual Emotions
Twitter chat with Manak Matiyani and Devanik Saha storified
Nov 19, 2017
What Men Talk About When They Talk About Sex
As boys grow up and start having their first experiences, the conversation is similar to sharing newfound facts about sex in childhood: “You won’t believe what I did!” “how did it feel?” “this is how it is.”
Nov 17, 2017
What Being a Sexologist Taught Me About People
Stigma has been my prime nemesis.
Nov 15, 2017
Mard, Mann Aur Jealousy: 5 Men Talk about Dealing With Unusual Jealousies
Unusual jealousies men experience and how it affects the way they look at themselves as sexual beings.
Nov 16, 2017
THINGS PEOPLE TOLD US ABOUT THEIR FIRST TIME
Sep 15, 2016
PARENTS TUMKO SEX-ED PE BHAROSA NAHI KYA? THEN THESE THREE VIDEOS WILL GIVE YOU CONFIDENCE
Sep 06, 2017
Mission Orgasm: Exploring the Galaxies Of Pleasure!
Aug 10, 2017
How I Helped My Mother Watch Porn and Other Stories
Can a young woman learn to accept her mother too is a sexual being?
Aug 28, 2017
Diary of An Indian Sex Educator
It was a co-ed school. But the boys were not going to learn about the body.
Jul 31, 2017
Why I'll Never Stop Masturbating
I accidentally discovered orgasms at 14, and began a thrilling solo trip
Sep 19, 2017
When Pets Walk In On Sex
Let’s face it, pets do become like family for most people. While we may all have worked out ways of getting away from our families in the pursuit of ishq, animal children have a sneaky way of sticking around and refusing to be shooed out of the room.
Sep 07, 2017
Making Sense of An Ending
Jul 27, 2017
For 25 Years I've Stayed Faithful To A Husband Who Refused Me Sex
Do I need sex? Well not really but I’d definitely like some.
Jul 17, 2017
How To Have THAT Awkward Conversation
Jun 28, 2017
ARE YOU AN ANIMAL IN BED? OKAY - WHICH ONE?
Elephants have penises that are almost as big and strong as a fifth leg.
Jun 01, 2017
How To Fully Taste The Compelling Joys Of Cuddling
While for some, cuddling might be in the same category of pleasure as panipuri and sex, for me it belongs in a fuzzier category. For starters, sexual desire needn't enter into it at all. Or it might, but it is really not a prerequisite.
Jun 23, 2017
How To Get Naked In Front Of Another Person And Be Cool With It
We feel suspense, anxiety, uncertainty, excitement and maybe even a little fear about what getting naked will mean. Should we? Shouldn’t we?
Jun 02, 2017
Things You Should Know About Anal Sex
Yes, most people are curious about anal sex ki baatein. But not every woman, gay or straight, is comfortable with having a penis or a dildo in their anus. Not all men, gay or straight, are instantly (or ever) comfortable with having either a penis or a strap-on in their anus either
Jun 27, 2017
Watch Me As I Fall In Love: 5 Trans Persons Talk About Dating
Love is supposed to be the simplest thing, but it isn’t.
May 17, 2017
HOW NORMAL IS YOUR SEX DRIVE? (PROBABLY VERY NORMAL)
May 16, 2017
WHAT 100 WOMEN TOLD US ABOUT MASTURBATION
The truth about female masturbation and it's varied forms and experiences: As told by a hundred women
May 05, 2017
A Sexy, Sizzling Reading List to Help You Get Off
Books to spice up your sexy time!
May 03, 2019
I TOOK A JOURNEY WITH SEX TOYS AND I SAW STARS
At first it felt strange. But soon I realised the pleasure was quite unlike what I had felt before – and using it was rather easy.
Mar 29, 2017
WHY I DECIDED TO PAINT SEXY PICTURES OF MALE MOVIE STARS
Mar 24, 2017
MY 1.2 FOOT VAGINA
Mar 21, 2017
Dear MTV, Please Excuse But Orgasms DO Have A Gender
Mar 10, 2017
GYAAN FROM YOUR GYNAE
Jan 02, 2017
Artist Tarini Sethi: "Everyone is the same, we all have imperfections"
Everyone is awkward about themselves in some way or another. It’s okay to hate parts of your body, but these parts are what define you and one has to learn to love them instead of hide them.
Dec 18, 2016
Don't Miss These Nine Stories About Young Girls' Periods!
What if we could move on to talking about periods as just another part of our lives?
Oct 03, 2016
RECLAIM MENSTRUATION! SAY BOO TO TABOO!
Sep 28, 2016
Grim Hairy Tales: A Depilator’s Diary - Plain Text
Sep 14, 2016
WHICH WAY DO WE SLICE IT?
A poem by Jaya Sharma
Sep 13, 2016
MARDON WALI BAATEIN: Things Boys Told Us About Their Feelings
We tried to unpack what the young men felt about love, sex, relationships, society and a man's place vis-a-vis these things.
Sep 21, 2016
NOT A HAIR IN PLACE: SEX, WAXING AND THE BODY IN MY MIND
Body hair and sex - that complicated relationship!
Sep 06, 2016
ISHQ VISHQ SEX VEX
EXPLORING TOUCH TO EXPLOSIVE TOUCH Let Manu take you on his journey of touch from naive bodily explorations with his male friends to the electric, experiences with the opposite sex, and along the way understandings about consent, mutuality and the simple pleasures of pleasure!
Sep 02, 2016
HOW WAS THE SEX-ED FOR YOU?
Aug 22, 2016
Birds Do It. Bees Do It.
Aug 19, 2016
WHAT INDIAN MEN FEEL ABOUT THEIR PENIS: RESULTS OF THE GREAT INDIAN PENIS SURVEY
Jun 28, 2022
Opening Up About Your Sexual Self
GIFS that express the pain of hiding your sexual self
Aug 01, 2016
You, Me (Aur STD)
A pertinent but unexpected question asked on a random dating app led Luna to get tested for STDs. Just using condoms is not enough!
Jun 01, 2016
KINKY IS QUEER
A poem on finding freedom in the Kinky and the Queer!
Jun 28, 2022
The First Indian Penis Survey
Are you In a Complicated Relationship with your Penis? Fill out our completely anonymous Penis Survey to help us understand what people are feeling towards their penis!
Apr 27, 2016
Amma, It's Time We Had THE TALK
Discuss sex with your parents? Tell them that you are sexually active? Nope, not happening. But Srinidhi managed to do so. Read to find out how THE TALK took place between Srinidhi and her mother!
Mar 01, 2016
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